That method could be customized in a HelpFormatter subclass.  There already are several subclasses (documented), and writing your own is allowed, if not actually encouraged.

https://docs.python.org/3/library/argparse.html#formatter-class

Adding an extra parameter to 'add_argument', and passing that on through the Action class (and subclasses) is, potentially, a bigger task.  

So if you can get by with just customizing _format_action_invocation, there's no need for further action here.

I'll look for some examples, here or on SO, of customizing this method.