The now-closed issues I remember were about hits not being visibly marked at all.  For me, on Win 10 with 3.6, they are being marked.  If you are referring to any discussion specifically about which tag to use, please post the issue numbers prefixed with '#', as in #29382, to make them become links.

Without a patch and more explanaton, I am not sure what you did and what you saw as a result.

I have considered changing the 'hit' tag, but I want to first investigate the behave of other editors (and apps with 'find' functions) on the major platforms.  When I have a proposed patch, I will solicit opinions on whether it is better.